Naked dancing, flower petal baths and missing persons

Ready for a tenuous link? Well here goes...

I met Chris nearly thirteen years ago in a nightclub in Manchester.

The first time Madonna ever performed in Britain was at this nightclub

The song Madonna sang was Holiday

I am now going to write about holidays.

Ta daah! *takes a bow*

As the song goes:

If we took a holiday,

took some time to celebrate,

just one day out of life,

it would be, it would be so nice.

And they are nice aren't they? Holidays? Well on the whole... I'd steer clear of Malta though - we made that mistake last year.

Towards the top of the list of holidays has to be Thailand. Bangkok was a bit ropey but we were jet lagged, incredibly tired and we only had one day there but Koh Samui was brilliant. It rained for the majority of the holiday which was a bit of a bugger but the up sides more than made up for the downs. There was a beach party one night (the half moon party - I suspect that this was a rip off of the full moon party but fun all the same) There were pick up trucks collecting people and Chris & I jumped on one of these with Sophie and Nathan - a couple we met in the swimming pool - and trolleyed off into the hills. Half an hour later after winding through woods and hills we pulled up on a rough piece of ground which opened onto a small bay. There was a huge fire in the middle on the beach and to one side a massive, colourfully lit up pyramid. Music boomed out across the beach and there was a make shift bar on the other side where we stocked up on vodka redbulls. We danced right the way through till dawn and watched the sun rise out of the sea.

On the other side of the day the sunset at Cafe Del Mar in Ibiza was quite special - granted the sunsets weren't brilliant when we were there but the place itself a unique experience. Last time we were in Ibiza another place that we discovered was Bambuddha Grove. http://www.bambuddha.com/ Stunning food and amazing music. We left feeling like we had just had a three hour massage.

In Bali we fed giant fruit bats Coca Cola. Chris and I also shared a couples massage. It was an odd experience to say the least. Starting with the elasticated disposable knickers - not flattering but at least you maintained a shred of dignity. The two Balinese ladies giggled all the way through. We lay on our respective massage tables and the massage began. 

After a long and thorough massage the ladies daubed us with some kind of tropical porridge and then rubbed it into our skin thus providing an all over exfoliation. After a good rubbing one of the ladies giggled and ushered us both - in our paper and elastic knickers - towards a bath. A bath, I might add that was large enough for two, filled with luke warm water and oils and with flower petals floating on the surface of the water. They left us in the flower bath with a refreshingly cold lemon and ginger tea and exited the room. This is when the giggles began. And continued for the next ten minutes quite uncontrollably. The whole experience was finished off with a naked dip in an outdoor jacuzzi accompanied by a glass of water flavoured with cucumber. That was the only massage I have ever had.

Our first holiday together was nearly twelve years ago and we went to California. Chris knew someone at Sony records who knew someone in San Francisco who had two friends who rented a room in the Mission district of the city. We were collected from the airport by the friend of the Sony woman who drove us at break neck speed down the freeway and into the city where she deposited us in the kitchen of a couple with a room. One was French, the other was Brazilian, they gave us a set of keys, showed us our room and told us to use the house as our own before buggering off out for dinner. San Francisco was cool - aside from the day that we got off the subway at the wrong station and when we asked a policeman directions they warned us to hang on to our bags. Very comforting. I lost a gold lighter that my brother had given me for my twenty first birthday in a night club called Universe.

We left San Francisco and headed south via Santa Barbara and LA and eventually found ourselves a few days later in San Diego. Here was another odd meeting - the woman that worked at American Express travel in Manchester where we bought our flights had a cousin in San Diego. We turned up in La Jolla and were welcomed by Peter, his Chinese boyfriend Stan and Peter's six year old son. We stayed there for four nights with complete strangers who were absolutely wonderful and treated us like best friends. They took us shopping, we all went for sushi, they tried to take us to a nudist beach which I politely declined and they barbecued for us. The highlight as far as I was concerned was the night at the club on the Mexican border. There was a fierce drag queen on stage and a competition. I entered the competition. To be a competitor I had to walk on to the open air stage in front of about two hundred drunken queens in nothing but my underwear. I then climbed into a glass shower cubicle where I was soaked in cold water and just to complete the hideousness I then danced for the screaming (baying?) crowd. I came second. I did not win $100. There was no second prize.

My final story this evening is thus: Picture the scene... An art deco hotel in Miami's South Beach. A restless night's sleep for Chris. I arise from my slumbers to Chris's saying - I don't understand how we leave Miami in four hours, get a connecting flight in New York and arrive in Manchester two hours ago when my dad will be waiting for us. In short we had not taken back the hire car, we had missed our flight to New York and subsequently our flight to Manchester, Chris's parents were panicking and by this point routing through our personal belongings back home and my parents had registered us on a missing persons list in the Miami Dade area. Utter chaos had ensued back in England. The outcome - four more days in Miami. In hindsight a good result all round.

The Cool Kids

As I have written previously, pubs have played a pivitol part in my life and just so you know - so have night clubs... To think about it my experiences in nightclubs seems interesting and varied but in reality I just got wrecked and danced strangely whilst wearing a variety of fashion statements.

My first night club at the age of sixteen was Henry Africa's in Oldham. I distinctly remember wearing a shirt, tie and jacket because that was what my dad used to wear when he went to night clubs - in the late sixties... I spent many a pointless night in there drinking blastaways (a pint glass with one bottle of castaway mixed with one bottle of diamond white - I've always been classy.) and pretending not to look at Stan the man (the stripper) and vice versa pretending to be interested in Sexy Sue (the other stripper.) One of my enduring memories of this place was Alison going arse over tit on a wet patch on the dance floor and flashing her undergarments to one and all as she lay there splayed across the middle of the dance floor.

I used to go to a club called Ambition - again in Oldham. This was known as Oldhams best alternative night - it was actually Oldham's only alternative night. The music was quite a range from Metallica, Nirvana and Rage Against The Machine (who I insisted on calling rage against the washing machine much to the chagrin of the alternative fans) to Blur, Adam Ant and Madness. There were lots of people with long hair, lots of people with shaved heads, lots of ripped jeans and a sea of Doc Martins. I fit in there very well...

Bowlers was interesting. A club that opened at eight and closed at two, sold no alcohol and had a massive following right the way across the north west. You were frisked by the doormen - who were terrifying - and the only words you needed to make a new friend for life were "What's your name? Where're you from? What've you had?" Which invariably would be answered with "Alright mate, I'm Gaz from Warrington. I've had a gram and a pill. Safe, I'm going for a dance now." I would leave Bowlers dripping with sweat and once even had an imprint of my tartan trousers on my legs when I undressed later that night.

I remember going to Sankeys Soap in Manchester for the first time - it was very exciting at the time! I didn't know where it was so we jumped in a taxi and had him drop us off. He pulled up outside a closed door at an old warehouse on the wrong side of Great Ancoats street and said here you go. There was a funny little, rough looking pub on the opposite corner which we went into for a pint and about twenty minutes later came out to find a queue outside the little door. We eventually went in through the door to a courtyard and then into the building. The music started incredibly slowly - almost a just a deep drum beat and over the course of about an hour slowly sped up and people started joining the dance floor. A couple of hours later I was dancing to very hard, very loud techno.

One of my favourite clubs was Paradise Factory in Manchester. I went there for the first time on my twentieth birthday and hadn't ever seen seen anything like it. On one night in there I found myself dancing with a roller skating nun called Sister Marta and a giant piece of toast called Mrs Crusty. I nearly got kicked in the face one night by Fernando doing high kicks in his high heeled platforms - Fernando is now April. There was a guy there every week who must have been in his mid sixties. He was called Tony and he always wore a dinner jacket and bow tie and smoked what looked like huge joints firmly jammed into a cigarette holder. I also remember a woman who was a regular who wore a long trench coat and had big eighties hair. Underneath the trench coat she just wore a skimpy bikini and she looked and danced like one of the women from that Robert Palmer video.

On the door was Nicki Pennington who always had a clip board for the guest listers and grilled everyone else about their gay credentials. She would ask if you knew that this was a gay club, then she would ask if you were gay, then she would ask which magazines you read - which you would have to reply Gay Times and Boyz magazine - well you could hardly answer New Scientist and The Times Sunday supplement could you. She would finally ask you what your favourite page of Boyz was and the standard answer had to be - the back page. That's where the naked man picture was. Whilst waiting for this grilling you would be entertained by Lady Lola who would tease people in the queue and give out lolly pops. I believe she went on to be a producer for The Trisha show.

Also amongst my favourites is Space in Ibiza - not so much inside but definitely the outside terrace. There's something spine tingling about dancing, off your tits, in the middle of the day and watching an aeroplane coming screaming over your head as it goes in to land at Evissa airport down the road. You can read the letters on the bottom of the plane and everyone throws their hands in the air as if to touch it as it comes in. It's thrilling.

I met Chris at the Hacienda in Manchester on one of their Flesh nights. I've still got the ticket. It was called Flesh FC and had a football theme. I was dancing up on the stage when I turned around and saw him there. He was the boy I had been dancing with at Paradise Factory the week before but hadn't spoken to. Fate or just the small world of clubbing in Manchester in 1996? That was the first night that I went to Danceteria at Central Park. A dirty, nasty club if ever I've been to one. It started at midnight on Saturday and closed at ten thirty on Sunday night. Oil from the Chorlton Street car park above would seep through the concrete ceiling and stain your clothes as it dripped through to the club. I far preferred The Breakfast Club which ran from three till six after Paradise Factory had closed. No booze, just soft drinks and coffee and after a quick sit down and chat the dancing would begin again. This is where the cool kids went - and I was one of them. What happened?